7 Flirting Tips For The Shy Guy
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1. Be Confident
What does a girl look for the very first instance she sees a guy? The looks, yes true that but apart from that the way they carry themselves is a key, confidence is the key. I know it doesn’t come easy and naturally to you as it does to some of the other guys out there, but it is actually the glass ceiling that you need to break. Just go up to her and introduce yourselves, say hi and tell her your name. This is the easiest way to talk to her and you never know, she might just have been waiting for you to start talking and after this, you may not have to put that much effort to talk to her, she will certainly respond and the both of you will end up chatting all evening long. So break the ice and after that it won’t be that hard, just be confident.
2. Greet her with a smile
Smiling is contagious and makes you feel good about yourself, so greet her with a smile. Say ‘Hi’, don’t be afraid of being turned down. The thought of not being accepted is a real date –killer so put it out of your mind for now. What if she doesn’t like me? What if I embarrass myself? Just remove all the “what ifs” from your mind. Don’t overthink anything, just do it. You may not know that even if you end up embarrassing yourself, the both of might have a good laugh about it later. The worst that can happen is that she turns you down, but you weren’t going anywhere until you tried. So get out there and get talking.
3. Make her feel comfortable
Most of the guys are not comfortable opening up to the people you have just met and that is totally fine. You don’t need to get pressured about telling her everything about you and also you really don’t have to try being funny if you are not that kind of person. Sometimes when you try to be who you are not then it might be a major turn off. She might just get uncomfortable so your aim should be to make her feel comfortable. If you are out eating together then ask her if she needs anything more, let her choose the seats and her food. If you somehow get nervous then just make a joke about yourself, she will certainly laugh at it because there might have been a day when she felt the same. She will find you fun, don’t worry.
4. Listen carefully: Get to know her
This is something based on which she will decide if she will say a yes to a second date or not. You have to be genuinely interested in her and listen carefully when she is telling you something about herself. Ask her questions about the things that you want to know about her. There is always a story behind every small thing that she is wearing or doing. Listen to her stories, she might tell you something that she never told anyone before. Share your stories with her, she will certainly love to hear them and that way you will make one memorable evening with her. Just don’t fake it since it is completely visible and that will just ruin everything and also make her feel that you don’t really like her. So keep it simple.
5. Compliment her
Girls love it when you compliment them and they also know if it is from your heart of it’s just a fake. Compliment her about any small thing you notice that looks wonderful. She might be wearing new earrings or it can be just her smile that you find the most beautiful. Girls like it when her man compliments her, that way they know that you notice them and next time when you meet her you will certainly be up for a surprise. Girls love dressing up and getting ready and if you notice that and compliment them then they will know that you are considerate and charming. So every now and then just pull out a chair for her and tell her she looks beautiful.
6. Play hard to get
Now many guys take it in a wrong way, if I say play hard to get then that does not mean just be egoistic and high headed and ignore her. It simply means that when you are out in a group then don’t just talk to her, talk to everyone present there. If this is her first time with your friends then introduce her to everyone and let the others talk to her, just don’t make it about yourself and her. By the end of the night you might end up walking with her and she will be eager to talk to you about everything that happened. That way she will know that you trust her and she will like you more.
7. Don’t hesitate to ask her for a second date
After an amazing evening that you just spent with her you might actually ruin it by not asking her to meet up again. I know you are shy but if the both of you just click then what are you waiting for? Ask her to meet up again. Tell her that you enjoyed the evening and her company and that you would love to meet up again and go out for a movie or any fun activity together. You know her enough now and you can certainly ask her out for a movie if there is a new one and she likes the actor or if she likes to eat at some place then take her there. She will love to have your company and do the fun things together.